Communication

What is stopping someone from lying to you? How can it ever be that the reality that everyone shares with you is entirely truthful? Everyone has their own brain and experiences reality in their own way, so how can we be so sure that the reality we see and perceive is entirely equal to something that another person experiences? Most of the time, we can’t. What surprises me and might be surprising to you as well is just how different one world can be through two different pairs of eyes. Everything we remember and everything we see is shaped by what we have seen before and the impact that has had on us. A storm is both a thing of beauty and a thing of destruction, yet ultimately, it may end up mattering who’s walls end up being stronger.

So this world filled with lies, walls of different strength, and eyes with different lenses may seem so confusing. Yet almost every time, all of us seem to think that we know the reason behind each difference. Another lie we tell ourselves and those around us to stop the first lie from bothering us In this continuous fight of lies with lies in our brains, how can we expect anything we tell another to connect dots instantly? Yet that is where the bigger problem arises. As these dots don’t connect automatically on the first try, they end up being joined by the other person’s brain. In this process of filling gaps, the impact is not detrimental to the information that we end up passing on to each other but to our emotions.

Something you tell your friend lightheartedly, they might take offence to as they start joining dots. Now they made the lie of your ignorance and misbehaviour believable in their heads. Yet it was not a lie, was it? All this communication we have between ourselves seems to be creating more problems than solving them. So, why does it seem like everyone we see is simply trying to make their own statement? Is being heard and understood that important? Does it hold that much value?

Maybe it would be better if the only communication we could have was based on assumptions and nothing that could be added to or subtracted from another person. Making everything we want true in our own heads without any way of forcing our truth upon others. Possibly that way, we would not have as many misunderstandings.